Problems among humanities were here from time memorial. Broken marriage and broken relationship were here from antiquity. One song writer says "Any heart can be broken in so many ways" Every time a relationship falls apart. Some families fall along with it. Then societies suffer from it. Because the family is what make up society. What causes a marriage are relationship to be broken? If a man and a woman are left alone to live their life without interferences. Nothing will ever go wrong. If my readers remember what happens in Genesis. Every thing was going good between Adam and Eve until Satan comes along. Observe whom Satan approached first. He approached the woman first. When she was by herself. Then he toyed with her head and her emotions.

On one of my job. A woman came to work and boasted to the rest of women that her husband gives her car a paint job. For her valentines day gift. Another woman burst into laughing. Can one eat a paint job? Can a paint job keep one warm? The woman asked her. What did your husband give you for your valentine's gift? She replies."My husband takes me to Jamaica" The woman who gets the paint job went home sad. One week later I asked the other woman. "How did you like Jamaica? She replies " I have never been to Jamaica. I only wish"

Another sister in one of our Church husband was in Jamaica. She worked two jobs to get enough money to bring him and their Children to the USA. Another sister told this lady to punish the husband when he came up. "Make him go down there" Because as the men get to the USA they leave the woman who bring them up" "So as soon as he comes to the USA. You starts to punish him" The first thing the man want to know who teach her "To go down there" That she wanted him to do it to also. Then he cannot understand why she changes so suddenly and, where are the ill-feelings coming from. He bears the punishment until he gets the green card he ran. Then the friend who causes all this trouble. Say" I told you to punish him because he was going to run when he gets the green card" The truth is. The man did not come to run. He ran because of the punishment he was getting.

#1 STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE WHO WILL PLAY WITH YOUR EMOTIONS.

Sirach 42:13. For just as moths comes from garments, so harm to women comes from women. Sirach 37:7. Every counselor points out a way, but some counsel ways of their own;be on the alert when one proffers advice, find out first of all what he wants. For he may be thinking of himself alone; why should the profit fall to him? Note ( Sirach is found in: The New American Bible. Saint Joseph Edition. One lady told my wife to throw me out. Then she came to me, and told me that she have a room can rent me in her house. I must move out. These are the tricks that they played on each other.

#2 LEAVES ROOM FOR RECONCILIATIONS.

Sirach 7:26. If you have a wife, let her not seem odious to you; but where there is ill-feelings, trust her not.)( When you have a quarrel with your spouse always, leave place for the reconciliation to chip in. When the quarrel is over. Do not drop too much a heavy punches. So when the problem is pencils out, the healing process cannot chip in.

#3 BEWARE OF FRIENDS WHO GIVE BAD COUNCIL.

While pretending that they are in your corner. Making it looks like they are defending you. Sometime a person is really helping you. But helping you down. I have seen people told young women" Do not marry to him" What does he have to offer you but his two long hands and his long you know what? But twenty-four years gone by and that girl does not get another proposal.

Sirach 25: 1 With these things I am delighted, for they are pleasing to the Lord and men: Harmony among brethren, friendship among neighbors, and the mutual love of husband and wife.

Proverbs 6:16-AV These six [things] doth the LORD hate: yea, seven [are] an abomination unto him: Proverbs 6:17-AV A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,Proverbs 6:18-AV An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, Proverbs 6:19-AV A false witness [that] speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

#4 ALWAYS ASK YOUR SPOUSE ABOUT EVERY THING YOU HEAR ABOUT THEM BEFORE BELIEVING IT.

Give your spouse a chance to defend themselves. You must be the last one to believe the rumor. Sometime your support is all they got left. One day while driving along the road. I saw one of my sister-in-law. Looking very upset. I stop to find out what going on. She says to me: "James Is that your car park up over that prostitutes place? I say" No" I am sitting in my car talking to you now" She replies" It is a lucky thing that you drive up. Because I was just going to phone my sister, and told her.

#5 HAVE A SENSE OF MODE.

People do not play, laugh, hugged, kiss and sex every day. People have a time. For no apparent reasons they do not want to play today. If your spouse do not want to talk about a thing. Leave them alone until they are ready to talk about it.

#6 KNOW YOUR SPOUSE TEMPERAMENT.

Every quarrel must teach you something about your spouse. And never repeat a quarrel. The fight today must be left behind and move onto a new plane. If you have to repeat the same fight every day. The relationship is not growing.

#7 DO NOT ACT WITH ENVY.

James 3:16-AV For where envying and strife [is], there [is] confusion and every evil work.

WHO REALLY BROKE THEM UP?

Sirach 42:13. For just as moths comes from garments, so harm to women comes from women Sirach 7:26. If you have a wife, let her not seem odious to you; but where there is ill-feelings,trust her not.)( The woman female friends are the main killer to the relationship. The man’s woman family, and the woman, woman’s family. These planted ill-feelings in the woman, once the woman spouse saw the ill-feelings and the way his spouse is acting. He arrived at the conclusion that she is seeing somebody else. And that is when he started to look around for somebody else also. If a woman can keep her woman friends out of her relationship. It is bound to be a success.

PLACE OF DANGER.

The lunch room is the place where every marriage and relationship is being killed. If a man want to hear gossips. This is the place to visit.

Matthew 19:3-AV The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? Matthew 19:4-AV And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made [them] at the beginning made them male and female, Matthew 19:5-AV And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Matthew 19:6-AV Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Psalms 97:10-AV Ye that love the LORD, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked.

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